Mar 20 - On Stalking And Pesky Joint Facebook Profiles
By Shameem Guilliano
A 25-year-old guy in America raised $345 dollars to go to Miami with his girlfriend. Sounds innocent, right? Well, he actually started a GoFundMe page to raise the $300 needed to follow his girlfriend to Miami, where she had gone with her friends to enjoy Spring Break, because he didn’t trust her (story here).
Well, okay then.
So he managed to raise the money (and a little extra) and followed her there. He’s quoted as saying: “I will be staying wherever she lays her head, eating whatever she eats, and overseeing all parties and fun activity for the duration of the trip.”
Red flag anyone?!
But we see this controlling behaviour constantly, we’ve just become so used to it being around us we turn a blind eye or see it as “devotion” or “love”. It’s crazy how many joint Facebook profiles there are for couples in Gibraltar; couples who are clearly keeping tabs on each other and want to have control over their partner’s dodgy Facebook conversations/friends. I’ve even been deleted by a few friends because their girlfriends are paranoid and insecure. Sure, this behaviour is in no way exclusive to Gib but when it’s such a small place and everyone knows everyone else, the jealousy and paranoia is astounding. I wonder whether anyone’s followed their partner to Banus or Ibiza and just gone “Surprise! Que pasa guapa/guapo!”
Honestly, if there’s that much paranoia that you can’t trust your partner enough to let them have their own identity and fun without you, should you really be together? I mean how do these couples start that joint profile conversation?
“I think we should have a joint account, you don’t need your own.”
“Why yes I think that’s a splendid idea we’re practically one merged person without our own identities now.”
Everyone around you is without a doubt groaning the second you combine your Facebook profiles and have a weird mix of each of your names as the profile name. Who do they address when messaging the profile? The guy, the girl? Who replies? It’s so confusing and pointless.
Seriously though, if your partner’s going to do anything shady they’re going to find a way to do it regardless of whether you’re around or whether you’re keeping tabs - don’t follow the girl/guy to Miami/Banus.
