Editor's Blog Mar 02nd 2012
How to punish your man for bad behaviour.
There are many forums on the Internet that berate and offer tips on how to “deal”, yes, DEAL with immature men. Sorry, you want to deal with immature men?
One of my favourite quotes from one page states in bold “REWARD MATURE BEHAVIOUR, PUNISH BAD BEHAVIOUR”. It states very clearly that this tip is taken from strategies developed by dog trainer. Really? Dog trainers.
It goes on to say that you should punish your man by withdrawing his favourite food or bedroom activity.
Let me tell you about withdrawing your mans favourite food, unless you are Nigella Lawson, its not going to work, as a mans gastronomic needs are but a simple affair. All men can stick two bits of bread and some crispy porcine rind together, its not rocket science.
But the one that really is sticking at the back of my throat is the call to ban sex. If you don’t yet know it ladies, Confucius Say, “Man who is sent to the doghouse, ends up in the cathouse”.
The only thing that is probably keeping your relationship with this immature man together is the sex, and the fact that he may still make you laugh. You should probably not flatter yourself either, after the first year, as the passion wains, the sex is more about going through the motions or as something that is done to meet a physical need and not because you have retained the libedo of a porn star.
If your man is immature and you want to stay in a relationship, then why don’t you deal with it in the same way men deal with women, who are constantly nagging or have, all of the sudden, become mature and responsible, but nothing like the girl they first met. Why don’t you develop selective hearing and sight and enjoy the moments when you do see eye to eye.
If you feel you have to punish your man all the time, don’t you think you should consider leaving him? Moving on to a man who is less immature. And when you do find your mature man, please don’t pine for the guy that would fart in bed and hold your head under the covers until you went blue in the face.
Now where is my colouring book and crayons?
Ed.
